![]() “Of course sometimes it bothers me, I have had people tell me I'm too sensitive for a man, and then I’ve tried to do things like a “strong man” and that didn’t end well.īut in general I’m happy to be able to take care of others like the majority of men cant.” So now I strive to love because I choose to and let my desire for love first be met with myself: loving who I am and being ok with me.” ĭoes it bother you that you that the Two *stereotype* is feminine and female Twos probably outnumber males, or do you think that that makes you unique that you’re the minority and more rare? I can lead with love in all relationships, being true to who I am, and see that not everyone will accept me or who I am. I cannot live my life dependent on the love of others, in all situations. I recently was presented with the quote ‘unsaid expectations are unfair expectations’, and that really spoke to me. “I unfortunately give-to-get without realizing it. Then I also feel emotionally seen and cared for when that all does happen so I’m pretty cheap to keep happy.” “I look to be appreciated (“loved”) for being helpful without being asked or for fixing a problem and get super frustrated when the things I do are not acknowledged or applauded. “In my life, even when people are distant, Its very important for me to make sure they know that I love them whatever the circumstances, because I know how great this feeling is.” How does the core motivation of love play out in your life? ![]() So sometimes we let stuff simmer and then self destruct when we compare ourselves to others.” “Male twos at least in my experience are more repressive with their feelings and not as open because of social cues or because it’s looked down upon. I’m a pastor so that is helpful in conversation.” Also, it is sometimes surprising and endearing to others when a more nurturing and emotionally in tune response comes from me so it lets me break down barriers more. “Male twos have to fight against that stereotype a bit so there is a bit of shame and hiding associated with being in this type. ![]() What do you think makes male Twos different from female Twos? This can also be a negative, as I think other people can get accustomed to ‘that’s just how I am’ and not understand that I cannot always give.” I get a lot of self worth from how much I help others. I love being able to read and help other people well. I played a lot of sports too so a lot of what I assumed how guys should be care from social cues and of course the immature sexuality jokes.” I specifically remember my dad telling me how sensitive I was to everything usually in a negative context which really affected how I perceived things. In male culture a lot of us are raised up as not being able to have emotion or share how we are feeling. “Being a male 2 as an adult is pretty cool once you’ve accepted how God has made you. If I learned anything from these amazing interviews, it’s that the same way male Twos are different from our female Twos, all of our male Twos are different in some ways as well- and I think that’s a beautiful thing. Some of them are okay being more vulnerable even tho it’s against “society”, and some of them feel like they do sometimes feel the pressure to conceal some things about their personality. ![]() Some of them are a little more openly emotional, some of them aren’t. They don’t all fit into the “host” role, the very “nurturing” role, the extremely outwardly affectionate role, the pushover role. Male Twos (and even all Twos in general) are not all super hospitable and overtly generous and flattering. There are many misconceptions about Twos, but one of the most prevalent is that all male type twos manifest the same way as female Twos.
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